Today has been one of those days. One of those days.
The day began pretty typically for a Saturday with the Hub leaving for work at 6:00am, kissing me gently on the forehead as I barely have the strength to move, both arms trapped under sleeping boys. As he walks out, I lay, trying to remember when and how they ended up pinning me to the mattress. I have no clue. I move. Eyelids snap open. Coffee. Heading into the kitchen, I am struck by the most debilitating pain in my foot. Crumbling to the floor, clutching my foot with tears starting to sting my barely awakened eyes. A Lego. A mother-humping Lego. And it’s still stuck in my foot. Right in the sweet spot between the ball and the pad. I can barely contain it but I am thinking it. Really thinking it. Fuck. It’s not out loud. But it’s more oozing from the pores in my forehead. I am sweating obscenities.
I manage to recover. With no help or concern from the little beasts gobbling granola bars and fruit cups from the couch, little eyes glued to glowing screen like they’re in some kind of trance. I survey the house. The living room is pretty bad. The sink is piled with dishes. I efficiently, almost smugly, loaded the dishwasher the night before last (yes, you read that right) only to find that we were out of detergent. And then I forgot to get it yesterday. So now, this morning, not only is the dishwasher full of dirty dishes, but all the dishes from yesterday are piled in the sink. Sweet.
Looking over to the playroom, I am filled with anxiety and dread. That has to be cleaned. You see, we are in the beginning stages of selling our house and have people coming to look at it tomorrow. Tomorrow. And they are such a sweet young couple… The sight of that playroom may affect them so profoundly that they may never again be able to stomach the idea of bringing children into the world. But more importantly, they probably wouldn’t buy our house. I sit. Staring- glaring in at the mass of plastic, knowing that I will have to find a spot for each and every piece of shit in there.
Fuck. Again, not out loud but in my soul, I am breathing this curse in deeply and spitting it out from far in the back of my throat. Silently. And with a smile. Because that’s what we Mamas do, right? We hold shit together. For everyone. With a smile. Because if we can’t, everything falls apart. Everything falls apart. No pressure.
Mooch has a birthday party today and we have yet to choose the perfect gift so we are off to pick out something ridiculously pink, frilly and girly. Just have to pick out clothes for everyone. Walking into my bedroom, the fury of my looming task in the playroom returns in full force. Standing in the doorway, looking down at the heaps of laundry I must also deal with. But later. I dig in, searching out shirts and pants and underwear, and socks. God, I hate looking for socks. Hunching over, trying desperately to find the match to a dinosaur sock, I am so engrossed in my quest that I don’t even hear the smallest child sneaking up and pouncing on my back, catching me off guard, sending me face first into an over-turned laundry basket. Fuck. This time, it’s mostly in my head but the Fffffff slips a little. Hi Mama! Got you! And he runs off. The quest is over. Mooch will not be wearing matching socks today. I walk out of the room, but not before I take one long look back… Knowing I will have to tackle this later.
Mooch is pissed about his mis-matched socks. Zook won’t wear his coat. Cub is bitching at me for something but I can’t even hear him over Zook’s angry wails. We manage to make it into the car. Zook continues with the sobs- now because he wants to take his seat belt off. I stop to pick them up bagels. Silence as they chow in the backseat. The toy store is uneventful except leaving- which is always stressful. Always. And ends with me yelling that I am leaving as at least two kids run screaming, partially believing that I may actually be gone. I am beat. But we have a gift that looks like something a fairy barfed up so I think we are in good shape for this party. Mooch steps in cream cheese. And now it’s all over the car. My wallet falls to the ground into a mud puddle. Along with the card for the gift. Cub stands, looking at my wallet, acting like a sponge, soaking up the murky water. Pick it up, I am saying to him. But he’s just standing there. I’m not putting my hand in that… I vaguely hear him say as I am wiping cream cheese off virtually every surface with upholstery. Scooping my water-logged wallet up, I glare at Cub. I get in and just as I swing my arm down, I feel a bump. Hear a splash. Looking down, I see that someone has left a full bottle of milk on the center console. Without the cap.
Fuck. This time it’s out loud. Instant shame. Did I just do that? Was that out loud? Did they hear that? I desperately scan the rear view mirror. Yup. They totally heard that. No one says anything. Nothing. Deep breaths. I put the cap back on the milk. Put my seat belt on, after about ten deep breaths. I pull out of the parking lot. I know I should say something but I am just not quite sure what that should be so I just drive. Finally, I just blurt out, I am sorry. That was a really bad word. Mama was really angry and frustrated but it’s still not okay for me to say bad words. Quiet. And then giggles. Breathe Mama.
It was a day. A bad day. One of those days. But now it’s over. Now, they are up in their beds. They know their Mama isn’t perfect but they know she tries her hardest every day. The playroom is clean. The dishes are done. And the laundry, well that’s still up there. But tomorrow is another day.
Peace, Mamas.
Mama Gets Real 